Reasons to Build Self Confidence!

You know someone who exudes self confidence, don't you? It may be someone you work with, a neighbor or a close friend. You look at this person and think "Wow! She's got it all together."

She may or may not have it all together, but she is confident that she can handle whatever comes her way… both challenges and opportunities. If you've ever wished you had more confidence it's time to stop wishing and time to build self confidence.

You Can Build Self Confidence!

Did you know that self confidence is a trait that can be developed? You can build self confidence just like you can build muscle tone. Both take time, focus and a little bit of work.

In fact, like when developing muscle tone, when you begin to build self confidence you may feel a bit uncomfortable. In fact, it's pretty typical to experience discomfort since you'll be using emotional, intellectual and mental muscles that haven't been stretched or pushed to their limits before.

Build Self Confidence and Transform Your Life

It isn't difficult to build self confidence, just like it isn't difficult to build muscle tone (after all, you can build muscle tone using canned goods from your kitchen cabinet!) But it does take time and repetition. And like when building muscle tone, if you don't keep at it, your confidence will go soft again.

Before you embark on your exercise program to build self confidence consider a few benefits of putting yourself through this simple, yet powerful training program.

But before you read them, let's talk about why you should even bother to build self confidence.

• Improved Relationships - when you build self confidence you can deal more openly, honestly, and kindly with the people around you.

  You won't feel threatened by other people's successes instead you'll be able to celebrate them. You won't feel intimidated by overpowering personalities because you'll be comfortable with who you are and what you offer the world. When you build self confidence you won't feel the need to put other people down to build yourself up.

  Build self confidence and professional relationships will improve

  Is there someone you admire where you work? Is there someone with skills you'd like to learn; someone with character traits you'd like to model; or someone with leadership qualities you'd like to develop?

  When you build self confidence in yourself you'll feel comfortable developing relationships with the people you admire most. You'll understand and appreciate your own value and what you can offer them (in return for what you can learn from them). Stephen Covey calls it a win-win situation. When you build self confidence you appreciate and respect the differences in people and understand that we can all learn from each other. You become both a willing teacher and a willing student!

  Build self confidence and personal relationships will improve

  Many people feel drained by someone who won't make a decision, won't express an opinion, or won't stand up for herself. If you want more people to enjoy your company, value your contributions, and feel comfortable around you, then you need to build self confidence.

  When you build self confidence your circle of friendships can change and grow. You will develop relationships that will help you nurture your newfound confidence and grow it into something amazing.

  Once you build self confidence you won't feel threatened by the talent that other people have because you'll know, respect, and honor your own talents. When you build self confidence you can begin to help other people grow their own!

• Improved Opportunities - when you build self confidence you'll be ready, willing, and able to accept new opportunities when they are presented to you or ask for them if they aren't offered.

  You'll know your capabilities and you'll believe in your potential. You'll know that if you don't currently have the skills or knowledge needed that you can fill in any gaps to get the job done. You'll know that asking for help doesn't mean you've failed but that you're one step closer to succeeding. When you build self confidence you'll know that you have the determination and stamina to see the task through to the end.

  Build self confidence and you'll see opportunities everywhere!

  Many people overlook tremendous opportunities each and every day. It may be a job that no one else wants to do… but it may be a job that will get noticed by someone who can offer even more opportunities. When you build self confidence you'll be willing and able to take on tasks that other people see as menial, difficult, dirty, or whatever other reason people give for saying no to it. When you build self confidence you'll have the courage to overlook the comments others may make and see future possibilities.

• Improved Health - when you build self confidence you'll be able to set the boundaries necessary to reduce stress, establish healthier behaviors, and practice self care.

  You'll value yourself enough to see that you need time to take care of yourself. You'll say no without feeling guilty. You'll have more time to experience the things that give you joy because you'll let other people use or develop their skills in the areas that you've always said yes to. When you build self confidence you'll respect those times when you need to put yourself first.

  Build self confidence and experience a new life philosophy

  Many people don't value themselves enough to take care of themselves physically, mentally, intellectually or spiritually. They give so much to others that they don't have anything left to give to themselves. This can lead to feelings of hurt, anger, betrayal and frustration. When you build self confidence you'll start to lay claim to your time and energy. You'll give yourself permission to take care of yourself. When you build self confidence you'll know that others are capable of taking care of themselves, too.

What It Means to Build Self Confidence!

To build self confidence doesn't mean you have to stop helping other people. It just means you start respecting your own needs and wants, too.

To build self confidence doesn't mean you have to start flaunting and bragging about your talents. It just means that you start respecting and using them without apology or fear.

To build self confidence doesn't mean you have to change jobs or eliminate long time friendships. It just means you keep your options open so that if something appealing comes along, you aren't afraid to go for it.

To build self confidence doesn't mean you have all the answers or will always be right. It just means that you are comfortable with your decision making process and that you admit when you don't have enough information or knowledge to make a decision.

To build self confidence doesn't mean you aren't good enough just the way are. It just means that you know you are good enough just the way you are!

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